Or do you have to seek comfort elsewhere and get sick first?
Standing at a crossroads can be both really scary and really exciting.
It can be really hard to wake up in your own life and discover the things that do not work.
You may have discovered that you are not happy with your job.
You may have discovered that you have outgrown your products (if you are self-employed).
You may feel that you and your partner have grown apart.
Whatever it is for you in your life, it takes a hell of a lot of courage to take responsibility for what you feel.
And this is the first step to get out of the mess that you might feel like you’re in right now.
The easiest (and what many people do) is to pretend that nothing is wrong.
Although you feel it deep inside your cells that something is off.
Sometimes, it is easier to stick your fingers in your ears and shout “lalalalalala” in the hope that the feeling you have inside, saying that something is off, disappears. I’ve tried that several times.
That time, when I was younger and in a relationship I knew wasn’t good for me.
Or when I had a job I was not happy with, but kept earning money. Or when I continued to sell products, because I was afraid of not making money if I stopped them.
The problem is…
It is SO unsatisfying for your soul to do this.
It stops the flow.
In the worst case, it can make you sick.
If you keep it up long enough, your body will probably tell you.
Are you self-soothing? Then it is time to wake up.
When we self-soothe, it is often because there is something in our lives that we will not admit to ourselves, is not working.
It may be that you comfort eat, because you feel that you and your husband are just together for the sake of the children.
It may be that you are on social media all the time, because you are daydreaming to get away from your own life which is not making you happy.
It may be that you go out and get wasted, because you know that you are not being yourself in your everyday life, but when you get a drink, you can release the tension.
The sooner you wake up and take responsibility – the sooner you will experience all the magic that is available to you.
Let me guide you through the process of the crossroads.
Now, of course I can only speak from my own experience.
But every time, I (or my customers) have been at a crossroad.
Then, typical things occur again and again.
Some steps, so to speak:
- You whiz around in your own life thinking all is well
- Suddenly, this feeling of “there must be more to life” sneaks up on you
- You try to ignore it (sometimes months, sometimes years)
- You self-soothe – trying to replenish so that you do not feel the emotion
- You discover that it isn’t working (perhaps in the form of 20 extra pounds, a disease, getting fired or something else)
- You begin to realize that you can’t keep going on like this
- You get motivated by the fact that it should be different – and you start dreaming
- You set goals. Dream. Visualize
- You get demotivated, because you are far from where you want to be
- You self-soothe a bit more.
- You get to the point, where the signs that you cannot continue are very serious (too many extra pounds, stress, illness, depression or the like).
- You become aware that there is only one way forward – to continue and become even more ill or to decide to take responsibility for your life.
- You take responsibility – it has to change
- You try to figure out and work out how to solve it
- You do this for a while, only to discover that it doesn’t work
- You start cleaning up. Letting go. Allowing the process. Being patient. Being self-loving
- You panic a bit when you can’t see what is going to happen
- You get back to trust and taking one step at a time. Cleaning up
- The universe begins to support you – the new elements begin to land
- The joy, pleasure, and abundance begin to emerge in your life
Well, this is how I most often see things unfold, when I or my customers stand at a crossroad.
It can, of course, unfold in a completely different way.
How would it be if you just jumped over a lot of these steps now, and instead:
- Take responsibility for what you feel.
- Clean up what doesn’t work (no matter how hard it is).
- Take one step at a time, trusting that things will land.
- Watch how things unfold at your feet.
It is considerably more self-loving than first ignoring, getting sick and stressed, and continuing slaving away.
It is far more enjoyable.
Lots of love, M
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